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What to Wear to a Funeral: Funeral Outfit Ideas, Colors, Dos & Don’ts

Funeral Outfit Ideas, Dos and Don'ts, Etiquette

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Let’s talk about what to wear to a funeral.

Expectations can vary. At a more formal, traditional funeral, you may be expected to wear black dress clothes (buttoned suit for men, dress for women). For many funerals the only requirement is that you wear something nice in darker colors.

Traditional, high-profile, upper class, or more “formal” families will expect you to dress in traditional funeral attire. For others, there is may be no expectation of dress at all, and for some non-traditional funerals (perhaps a “celebration of life” or a funeral for a cosplay enthusiast) you may be expected to dress in bright, celebratory colors or even in a superhero outfit. We’ll talk about each of these in turn below.

However, most people at most funerals want to pay their respects to the deceased and the family by dressing in a way that communicates sympathy and mouring, so you will be best served following our general collection of tips, guidelines, and ideas for what to wear to a funeral.

This guide on what to wear at a funeral is ideal for contemporary Western culture; other cultures may differ and vary considerably. Even within modern Western culture, there is quite a bit of variation so please keep in mind the culture and traditions of the decedent’s family, region, heritage, and/or religion.

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    • 12 tips to help you decide what to wear
    • Proper colors to wear to a funeral
    • What to wear to a funeral in summer
    • What to wear to a funeral in winter
    • Funeral attire
    • Wake, viewing, or visitation attire
    • Memorial service attire
    • Celebration of life attire
    • What to wear to a funeral that is not black
    • Funeral outfit ideas for women
    • Funeral outfit ideas for men

1. What to Wear to a Funeral: General Guidelines

12 general and easy tips

  1. Black is a traditional color and is always appropriate
  2. Non-black clothing is generally acceptable, as long as it isn’t brightly colored
  3. Shirts/dresses should cover up to the neck; no open collars
  4. Pants/dresses should cover the knees; no shorts or miniskirts
  5. Avoid flip-flops or athletic shoes
  6. In a casual setting, t-shirts may be appropriate – but avoid wild prints, logos, etc
  7. Keep a formal jacket on hand; this basic addition can help make many outfits passable!
  8. Wear subdued style and colors; you do not want to attract attention away from the deceased
  9. Dress as you would for church or a job interview
  10. Revealing attire is generally not appropriate; many traditions require shoulders and knees covered
  11. Be considerate of any religious setting; i.e., some require hats for women and/or men
  12. For information on funeral traditions of different religions, see here

Proper colors to wear to a funeral

  • Black is always the ideal; traditional, formal, or casual, you will never look out of place in black at a funeral
  • Dark grays and deep blues are also highly appropriate, especially with accents and accessories
  • Brown shades, lighter grays, and other earthy colors are acceptable for most funeral services
  • Avoid bright colors such as pinks, yellows, oranges, and reds
  • White is acceptable for jewelry, accents, and shirts worn under darker colors (i.e. a white dress shirt with suit and tie)

2. What to Wear at a Funeral: Women

Basic tips for women:

  • Dark dresses or suits are always appropriate
  • Keep shoulders covered
  • Skirts/dresses should reach the knees
  • Tasteful color accents can be acceptable
  • Avoid bright sun dresses
  • Avoid anything overly revealing

Basic funeral outfit ideas for women

  • Skirt suit
  • Pant suit
  • Dress
  • Skirt and blouse
  • Skirt and sweater
  • Pants and top with sleeves

For women attending a funeral, the traditional dress code has long been a modest black dress or a black business dress suit.

But again, with the changing times, less strictly formal attire has become acceptable to wear to a funeral. While you will generally want to wear respectful, non-attention-grabbing outfits, you will be fine with a conservative selection of brighter or lighter colors, business-casual options, modest dresses, and variations of skirts, blouses, and pants.

When in doubt – especially if you are unfamiliar with the family or service location – you should opt for the more conservative and more traditional options. Of all occasions in life, it is best to come to a funeral overdressed rather than underdressed.

3. What to Wear at a Funeral: Men

Basic tips for men:

  • Dark suits or buttoned shirts are always appropriate
  • Wear long-sleeved shirts, something with a collar
  • Wear a belt and tuck in shirt
  • Wear dress shoes or loafers
  • Avoid sneakers, athletic shoes, flip flops
  • Avoid jeans (though in many settings, dark jeans with tucked in shirt is acceptable)
  • Avoid shorts
  • Avoid baseball caps

Basic funeral outfit ideas for men:

  • Dress suit with tie
  • Slacks, polo shirt, belt
  • Slacks, button down shirt, tie
  • Slacks, button down shirt, vest
  • Slacks, button down shirt, blazer

The traditional dress code for men at a funeral has long been a suit in darker colors (black, gray, or dark blue) with the customary collared dress shirt and tie.

However, with the changing times, this traditional attire is no longer an absolute requirement. Instead, it is acceptable to wear something that is along the lines of “business casual” or “Sunday best.” Use your judgment, but it is generally sufficient to wear slacks in any color along with a collared shirt. This can be a dress shirt minus the tie or even a golf or polo shirt. Keep the colors subdued, but acceptable funeral attire is no longer limited to only the darkest colors.

If you are unsure or not quite as familiar with the family or location, you should play it safe and go with the more conservative options. It is better to dress in more traditional funeral attire than to arrive underdressed.

4. Dressing for the Seasons

What to wear at a funeral in summer

When attending a summer funeral, consider the location first. If you are going to be part of an outdoor service you will certainly want to come prepared for the sun and heat.

Bring sunglasses and an umbrella. The glasses should preferably be simple and black rather than a cheery “summer fun” style. The umbrella will preferably be black, but most styles and designs should ultimately be acceptable if needed.

Keep your clothing lightweight and try not to do too many layers. Choose fabrics that are lighter and airy, such as cottons and linens. Avoid nylon, polyester, or other synthetic clothing that will trap in heat and sweat. Also stay away from shorts and flip flops; dressy or nicer strapped sandals are acceptable.

For women, choose a light and comfortable dress, or a knee-length skirt with light blouse. Short sleeved shirts are acceptable, just try to stay away from tops that reveal too much of the shoulders or chest. Avoid spaghetti straps, too-tight clothing, and miniskirts. Wear black, gray, or dark blue if possible, but most contemporary funerals allow a wider range of color as long as it is not too ostentatious.

For men, do not wear shorts or denim. Rather, stick to lightweight slacks or dress pants. Pair it with a collared shirt such as a button-up or a polo shirt. Avoid Hawaiian or other brightly colored shirts. While lighter colors are acceptable, notably khaki slacks, it is advisable to wear a darker dress or polo shirt as this helps keep the outfit’s tone somber and may help hide any sweat from the heat. Dress shoes, loafers, or dark sneakers should be acceptable, just be sure to wear dark socks with them.

For children, they should generally follow the lead of their parents. Shorts are acceptable, especially when there will be heat or sunshine, but pair them with nice shoes and avoid sandals.

What to wear at a funeral in winter

If the funeral will be in the cold of winter, choose your outerwear carefully. The same dress codes apply to a funeral in winter, but you will want to add a coat along with accessories such as gloves, scarves, and hats. Bring a black umbrella for outdoor events.

For women, you will never go wrong with a classic wool coat in dark or moderate colors. Winter green, dark blues, browns, and plaids are also typically acceptable for your outerwear. Choose good rain boots for a burial or outdoor funeral. Even if indoor, avoid open-toed shoes or sandals of any type. Accessories can include warm gloves, a scarf, and hats or other head coverings. Apart from outerwear and accessories, stick to the general guidelines for women’s funeral attire.

For men, this is why it is important to have a good-quality black wool coat. Accessorize with a dark scarf and warm gloves. Wear thick, dark wool socks. A black or gray beanie is acceptable, but a classic fedora is preferred. Choose rain boots for an outdoor burial service and your normal winter footwear for an indoor service. Aside from outerwear and accessories, follow the rest of the tips for men’s funeral attire.

For children, again, follow the lead of the parents. Winter jackets in most colors will be acceptable, as will most rain boots. If possible, try to stay away from bright colors in accessories, but most people will understand when it is not possible to purchase an entirely new winter wardrobe for your children.

5. Traditional and Non-Traditional Services

funeral is the traditional term for a service with the body present, while a memorial service honors the decedent when the body is not present. Sometimes when the person has been cremated either term can be used.

When you are attending the literal burial, the service is traditionally known as a committal service but can also be called a graveside ceremony, graveside service, burial service, or simply a “burial.” Most often this takes place immediately after a funeral service and thus the dress code for one is identical to the other.

The term “celebration of life” has come into vogue in recent years, and the idea is to celebrate the life of the decedent as opposed to mourning their death. If this term is used, expect the service to be more casual with perhaps unique, creative, and alternative ceremonies and celebrations happening.

For more on the difference between these terms, see our article here.

What to wear to a funeral

When attending a funeral, it is important to dress respectfully to honor both the decedent (whose body is present) and the grieving family.

Since the body will be buried or cremated sometime after the service, by necessity it will need to take place soon after the death. This means that the grief of family and friends will be recent and raw.

All the more reason, then, to choose funeral outfits according the more traditional, formal, and conservative guidelines detailed above. This is a way for you to pay your respects to the departed and their family.

What to wear to a wake, viewing, or visitation

wake is an open-casket viewing of the body and can also be called simply a viewing. More accurately, a wake is traditionally a Catholic ceremony but the term has been used more loosely in recent years. A visitation is a similar event but without the body present.

The wake, viewing, or visitation is a gathering for close friends and family to express condolences, share grief, and simply be together. If you are invited to one of these events it is a high honor.

When attending, follow the same guidelines as detailed above for funerals. Expectations for attire can range from highly formal to dressy-casual. If you are already familiar with the family you will be aware of their style and sensibilities, so dress accordingly.

On the other hand, if you are not very familiar with the family then it is always best to be safe and dress in more formal attire. Black or gray dresses and suits will always be appropriate.

What to wear to a memorial service

memorial service is typically held without the body present. This can happen due to a variety of reasons, but in many cases the memorial service can happen several weeks or even months after the person has died.

As such, a memorial service can sometimes be a little less formal than a funeral. The same guidelines for dress at a funeral are typically followed, but a memorial service can lean a few degrees more casual and informal. At a minimum, you should dress in nice clothing, in subdued colors, and follow the dressy-casual outfits worn to a job interview or church.

When in doubt, err on the side of more formal and more traditional.

What to wear to a celebration of life

When you see the phrase “celebration of life” and and a complete absence of funeral, memorial service, committal, etc, then you will most likely be attending a more casual affair. These can range in tone from a lighthearted memorial service to a full-on party with bands, dancing, drinking, and more.

You will still want to dress respectfully and appropriately, and still keep in mind the culture and values of the family, but you are fairly safe to assume that a smart-but-casual outfit will be acceptable.

Clothing to wear to a funeral that is not black

There are many funerals and memorial services where black clothing is not required. You can still wear black to those occasions (unless it is a “celebration of life” or similar event where you are specifically asked not to wear black).

If you are not wearing black to a funeral, it is best to stick with darker colors, especially in earth tones. Gray in nearly all shades and dark blues are highly appropriate. Aside from these mainstay colors, here is a palette of clothing colors to wear to a funeral that are not black:

What to wear to a funeral that is not black

6. Examples and Funeral Outfit Ideas

Funeral outfit ideas for women

Here we have a simple, modern black dress with black boots and warm hat, with appropriate splashes of color in the accessories:

Simple black dress with sleeves

Three variations on the contemporary knee-length black dress, with complimenting shoes and bags. Note that the style of these funeral outfits is airy and attractive, yet the shoulders are covered and the necklines are appropriate for the occasion:

Ideas for what to wear to a funeral

Here is an outfit designed for an outdoor funeral service. The hat and umbrella are a good idea for colder weather, the the light dress works perfectly with the pea coat. Add gloves to warm the hands, and the jewelry adds an antique sensibility appropriate for a traditional funeral.

Funeral outfit ideas

Here we have an example of appropriate yet stylish funeral attire in varied colors. The vintage style is a tribute to restraint rather than excess, with muted brown and navy blue tones.

What to wear to a funeral

The “little black dress” is a funeral staple, for good reason. A classic look, always appropriate, perfectly accessorized with simple necklace and earrings.

What to wear at a funeral

Here is a more contemporary professional look, an example of the ideal skirt and blouse combo:

Skirt and Blouse Outfit for Funeral

The simple black dress can always be accented with a bit of muted color, like the tan shawl and heels in this funeral outfit:


What to wear to a funeralWhen deciding what to wear to a funeral it is always best to go conservative. While it’s true that you don’t have to wear black, you should dress in a way that shows respect. That means avoiding bright colors, flashy prints, and glittery fabrics.

A good rule of thumb is to dress as if you are attending a serious business meeting. That means what you choose may be guided by your location, the climate, and the culture of the deceased.

What to Wear to a Funeral: Dos and Don’ts


  • Consider where and when the service will be held: A memorial service at a beach will be more casual than a service at a place of worship.
  • Use common sense: If you are attending the funeral of someone you knew to be quite formal, it is likely that the attire should be more conservative.
  • Ask for advice: It is perfectly appropriate to ask an immediate family member or the funeral director for advice on what to wear. The deceased may have specified a preference. For example, someone with a hearty sense of humor may have specified in his or her funeral plan that they would like everyone to wear green.
  • Dress to blend in: We all want to be special but a funeral is not the time to stand out. You want to be dressed along the same lines as the other mourners.
  • Consider the culture: Some cultures have special traditions when it comes to funeral attire. For example, some Asian cultures prefer white and in some African cultures, red and black are the norm. If the funeral is for someone with a distinct cultural background, it is perfectly acceptable to ask a family member if there is preferred attire.


  • Pick this time to be a rebel: A funeral is a time for everyone to mourn. It is not a time to stand out.
  • Underdress: While you are likely to see a range of fashion choices, you are far better off if you are a bit overdressed than underdressed. Step away from the flip flops!
  • Forget why you are there: The whole point of the funeral is to show respect to the deceased. If you choose something that is respectful you will be fine.
  • Agonize: Chances are you have something that will work. Just stick to basic dark colors and cover-up. The important thing is that you are there to honor your loved one. Unless your outfit is over the top or totally inappropriate, no one is likely to even notice what you are wearing.

In general, the etiquette for funeral attire is the same for both men and women: business-type attire that is respectful and conservative. Err on the side of dressing up as opposed to dressing down. Black or another dark color is almost always appropriate. Be sure to take the weather and location of the service into consideration and consult with a family member of the deceased if you need specific advice.

While it’s true that the standard for funeral dress has become more relaxed over the years, clothing should still be respectful and conservative. Keep in mind that your goal is not to place the focus on you. The best rule of thumb for funeral attire is to dress as you would for a business meeting. Select elements that are respectful and conservative and will not cause a distraction.

What to Wear to a Funeral: Tips for Women

  • A suit with a skirt or pants in a dark, solid color is a safe choice. You do not have to wear black unless the specific culture dictates it.
  • A skirt of appropriate length and blouse or sweater is normally appropriate.
  • Flat shoes or pumps are your best choice for shoes. Open-toed shoes or sandals may be appropriate depending on the venue and climate.
  • Depending on the culture, a hat may be worn.
  • Unless there are special circumstances, jeans are usually considered too casual.

What to Wear to a Funeral: Tips for Men

  • A suit with a collared shirt and tie or slacks with a sport coat are safe choices. You are not limited to black but dark, muted colors are generally the best choice.
  • Shoes may be casual but it’s best to avoid athletic shoes or sneakers. Flip flops and sandals are probably not appropriate.
  • Avoid jeans (unless the geography or climate dictate them), short-sleeved shirts, and sneakers. Baseball caps are rarely appropriate.

What to Wear to a Funeral: Tips for Teens and Children

Teens and children should take their cue from their parents. “Church” type, age-appropriate styles that show respect are generally appropriate.

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