how to ask someone their size without them knowing

Suppose you want to know How To Ask Someone Their Size Without Them Knowing, then this article is what you need. It contains how to ask a guy what size he is and how to know his size. Also, it includes how to ask someone their shoe size without them knowing.


Buying a gift for someone is tough, especially the men in your life. Everyone’s tastes are different, but there are always great gift giving staples like *ahem* a new shirt (#shamelessplug). The trick is, you want to get him a shirt that fits…but you don’t want to let the cat out of the bag by outright asking him what size he is.

So, what’s the best thing to do when you’re just getting to know each other, but a gift card just won’t do?

Here are six tips on finding your man’s shirt size without losing the element of surprise along the way:

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How To Ask Someone Their Size Without Them Knowing

  1. Be a Borrower

You’re probably eyeing up his big, comfy T-shirts already. Not only do they make great jammies, they’re also the best tool you can have when shopping for your guy!

Not ‘there yet?’ A strategic spill of some wine or ice cream will give you everything you need to go shopping.

“Oh no! Let me throw that in the wash for you!” 
*manically writes size info in concealed notebook*

  1. Get Some Intel

Suggest a night out with his friends. When he finally makes a trip to the washroom (definitely remind them to keep hydrating), hit up his friends for any clues to the right size. With any luck they’ve borrowed clothes or gone shopping together, and will open the doors to the info you’re searching for. 

Be warned that his male friends may not be the fountain of information that you need them to be. The male species tends to be oblivious to these sort of things.

  1. Sneak a Look When He’s in the Shower

For this one to work you need to be a little bit *serious* already (don’t make me spell it out for you). Suggest a couple’s shower, but before you hop in, tell him you’ll be a second. You’ll have all the time you need to check out any label you want on any of his clothes. Just don’t get caught, you’ll find yourself in hot water! #puns

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  1. Find a Comparison

Ever go to the store and think “holy crap, that’s my boyfriend’s doppelganger!” Use those evil twins to your advantage and ask them what size they are. Chances are they’ll be more than happy to share the info.

  1. The “Let Me Fix That For You”

This one is pretty easy with some finesse. Just walk around behind him and tell him that his shirt tag is flipped up – with cat like reflexes and a quick grab you can pull the collar tag out, take note of the size, and voila! You just put it back into the shirt, and he won’t even notice. +1 to Sneak.

If your guy is too tall, you’ll want to try this out when they’re sitting down to get the angles right.

  1. Compliment + Squeeze

Sometimes you have to bait a hook to get a bit of info. Start up a conversation with your man and feed them a bit of misdirection – say “Whoa, have you been cutting carbs down? You’re looking real lean!” or “That work out you’ve been doing looks like it’s really working to bulk up!” The real info squeeze comes in when you follow up with “so have you needed to buy new clothes? You can’t still be the same size!” and boom – he will answer your question thinking it’s plain old conversation. Very subtle.

Buying for your guy can be tough, but don’t be afraid of investing in a personal item like a hoodie, or a pair of shorts. All these tricks can work for you if you do them right – and they’ll put you one step closer to giving a gift that doesn’t need a gift receipt.

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Are Your Feet Still Growing?

Are you wondering why you are wearing bigger shoes as you get older? Do you think you feet are getting bigger?  Well, that is because they are getting bigger

Nearly 100% of us will need bigger shoes as we get older. Essentially what is happening is that over time our feet slowly flatten out. As they flatten, the arch lengthens and your feet get longer. In addition they splay out and your feet get wider.

Since your feet are getting bigger, you should be wearing larger shoes as you get older. If you are still wearing the same shoes you wore 10 years ago, we can pretty much guarantee that they are too small.

Besides Age, Why Else Do Feet Get Bigger?

1. Weight gain can cause feet to get bigger

If you are carrying extra weight, you are going to carry extra fat everywhere including around your feet with the result of larger feet.

2. Pregnancy can cause feet to get bigger

During pregnancy the same hormones that relax the ligaments of the birth canal also relax the ligaments in the rest of your body including the feet. Since the feet are carrying extra load during pregnancy due to normal weight  gain, the feet will often flatten leading to lengthening and widening of the feet.

How to Stop Your Feet from Getting Bigger

There may not be a way to completely stop your feet from getting bigger. But you may be able to slow the progression. Below are our best suggestions of what you can do to combat the flattening of the foot that occurs with aging, weight gain and pregnancy.

Please read this important disclosure about the products recommended in this article.

1. Use arch supports in your shoes

By using arch support to stop the flattening of the feet you may be able to stop or slow the splay that leads to feet getting bigger. The key is to get an arch support that conforms very close to the arch of foot. The closer it grabs your arch the better it will be at stopping your foot from flattening and splaying. Another way to look at this is to wear the highest arched orthotic you can tolerate.

Custom orthotics that are made to betotal contact to the arch of your footwill provide the best support and protection. There are, however, some very good over-the-counter arch supports that will offer excellent protection.

Over-the-Counter Orthotics with the Best Arch Support

For athletic shoes and walking shoes try the FootChair Plus Orthotic with adjustable arch height.  It has a great arch to help stop flattening of the foot plus pads that can be used to increase the arch for even more support. This may help stop the foot from getting bigger over time.

For smaller casual shoes and small athletic shoes (such as soccer cleats) try the smaller version – the FootChair 3/4 Length Orthotic.

For women’s dress shoes, the FootChair Slim Orthotic with Adjustable Arch Support is also is the one we recommend to our patients. This is by far the best OTC arch support we have found for women’s flats and dress shoes. It has a great arch support, a very slim profile and flexes to adapt to most heel heights.

Here is a list of all of our recommended prefabricated orthotics.

2. Wear arch support sandals or slippers anytime you are not wearing shoes

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At times that you are not wearing shoes, for example when in your house, wear sandals or slippers with arch support. The is particularly important if you are on hard, flat surfaces such as hardwood floors.

These arch support sandals will help prevent flattening and splaying of your feet.

The sandal brand with the most supportive arch is currently Vionic. You can see a selection of Vionic sandals and slippers here.

The key to avoiding flattening of the arch is to wear arch support as much as you can – even when at home.

3. Custom orthotics offer more protection against feet getting bigger

If prefabricated orthotics are not providing enough support, we can prescribe use a custom orthotic. Custom orthotics will conform closer to the arch of the foot, so they do a better job stopping your feet from flattening out. In particular a “total-contact orthotic” that hugs the arch of the foot very close will help the the arch from flattening the foot from getting longer.

If you are in the Seattle area contact us for an appointment to find out if you are a good candidate for custom orthotics.

4. Wear stable shoes

Stable shoes that don’t flex too much will also help support your feet and prevent the flattening that leads to larger feet. Our list of recommended shoes can be subscribed to here.

5. Have your feet sized when you buy shoes

Go to specialty shoe stores with well-trained staff and believe the clerk when they tell you that you are no longer a size 8.

6. Lose weight to shrink your feet

Extra weight puts a lot of flattening force on the foot. If you can take off a few pounds you will decrease those harmful forces on your feet.

So our general recommendation is that it is good idea to wear arch supports or custom othotics to help prevent the foot from flattening over time. Stable shoes will also help. These suggestions will probably help slow or decrease the enlargement of your feet, but  regardless of what you do you will probably need a somewhat larger shoe as time progresses.

Most Important for Preventing Your Foot From Splaying and Getting Bigger

If you want to try to limit how much your foot splays out the most important things you can do are to ALWAYS wear arch support as described above and, if you are overweight, then lose some weight.

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