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We have researched How To Distance Yourself From A Married Man. Hence, this article on how to break up with a married man over text. Below, in this article, you will find signs a married man is using you. Read on to discover them.

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Wondering if a married man cares for you?

While men appear simple on the surface, it can actually be hard to gauge how they really feel about you at the best times.

After all, is this married man just being nice to you because he’s a nice person?

Or is he being nice to you because he actually cares for you? And he is considering taking it further?

I’m not here to judge, but if you’re wondering how this married man feels about you, there are a few clear signs you can look out for.

Here are 17 signs a married man is falling in love with you.

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How To Distance Yourself From A Married Man

1. He makes an effort to see you

Look, this might sound simple, but it’s true. If he is going out of his way to see you then it might be because he has feelings for you.

When someone is already married, there’s really no reason to make continued efforts to see someone else unless it’s to do with work.

If he is using most of his free time to see you rather than his wife (or husband) then it might mean that he truly cares for you.

2. He’s acting differently around you

If you’ve known him for a while and you’ve recently noticed that he is behaving differently around you, then it may be because he has feelings for you.

This is especially the case if he is acting differently with you, and he’s acting his normal self with other people.

So, what do I mean by differently?

I’m really referring to nervous or hyper-type behavior.

Let’s face it, when a man has feelings for someone else, they’re more likely to act nervous around them.


Because they want to make a good impression and they don’t want to screw it up.

Even though the guy is married, he still can’t control his feelings.

And his feelings are causing butterflies and emotions that might cause him to act a little weird (we’ve all been there, right?”)

What constitutes “nervous type behavior?”

According to Health Line, these are the physical symptoms of anxiety:

– A feeling of restlessness, or feeling “keyed up”
– Sweaty palms
– A racing heart
– Trembling or shaking

3. He can’t help but notice he is always looking at you

One of the biggest giveaways that someone has feelings for you?

They can’t help but stare at you!

After all, when you have romantic feelings for someone, you can’t help but watch and admire them whenever they are nearby.

What happens when you return his gaze?

If he looks away straight away, it may indicate that he is embarrassed about his feelings for you, (perhaps because he is married).

However, if he slowly looks away, or he is actually staring at something else, then that may indicate that he doesn’t have feelings for you.

4. He feels like he is your hero

When you’ve had an argument with a co-worker, he’ll naturally take your side.

When you cross the road, he’ll put his body on the side of the traffic.

He can’t help it.

Even if he is afraid to admit that he loves you because he is married, he won’t be able to control his actions of wanting to protect you and be your hero.

study published in the Physiology & Behavior journal shows that male’s testosterone makes them feel protective over a woman they attracted to.

So naturally, if this married man loves you, he would want to protect you.

There’s actually a fascinating new concept in relationship psychology that’s getting a lot of buzz at the moment. It goes to the heart of the riddle about why men fall in love—and who they fall in love with.

The theory claims that men want to be your hero. That they want to step up to the plate for the woman in their lives and provide and protect her.

This is deeply rooted in male biology.

People are calling it the hero instinct. I wrote a detailed primer about the concept which you can read here.

The kicker is that a man won’t fall in love with you when he doesn’t feel like your hero.

He wants to see himself as a protector. As someone you genuinely want and need to have around. Not as an accessory, ‘best friend’, or ‘partner in crime’.

I know this might sound a bit silly. In this day and age, women don’t need someone to rescue them. They don’t need a ‘hero’ in their lives.

And I couldn’t agree more.

But here’s the ironic truth. Men do still need to be a hero. Because it’s built into our DNA to seek out relationships that allow us to feel like a protector.

If you would like to learn more about the hero instinct, check out this free online video by the relationship psychologist who coined the term. He provides a fascinating insight into this new concept.

5. He makes jokes about liking you

Let’s be honest: Not many married man are willing to make a joke about liking someone.

But if he’ll telling jokes about liking you, then it might be the case that he cares for you.

You see, there’s a reason he’s doing this.

If he decides to make a move, he’ll absolutely want to figure out how you feel about him beforehand.

Guys will often do this making some kind of funny comment about liking you…but they do it in a way that if you react badly, they can just laugh it off.

He can pretend he didn’t mean anything by it and spare his ego some damage.

This is important for a married man because if he cares for you and makes a move on you, but you reject him, not only is he losing his chance with you but he’ll probably lose his wife as well.

On the other hand, if your reaction is positive after his jokes about liking you, then he might feel confident enough to make some more moves down the track.

6. He is keeping tabs on your love life

Look, it’s not exactly normal for a guy to be incredibly curious about another woman’s love life.

A normal question like “You dating any at the moment?” is fine when you’re friends, but if he keeps asking you who you’re dating and it seems to be his favorite topic to talk about, then there might be something more sinister going on.

If he cares you then it’s likely he’ll react negatively to anyone you mention you’re dating. This is a sign he is jealous, and as we know, jealously is a sign of romantic attraction.

He will also keep a tab on your love life so he can figure out when he can a make move on you (if he is planning to).

7. He doesn’t share details about his love life

Find him hardly ever talking about his marriage?

Look, this isn’t necessarily a sign that he cares for you, but it is a sign that he might not be happy in his marriage.

Maybe he likes you. Maybe he wants you to forget that he is married.

Whatever the reason, you’ll agree with me when I say:

It isn’t normal for a guy to not talk about his marriage at all. There must be a reason for it, and if you relate to some of the other signs we mention in this article, it must be because he cares for you.

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8. He smiles and gestures at you

One of the easiest ways to determine if a guy likes you is to pay attention to the way his body moves.

If he is sending you some classic signals, he could be interested. Is he looking at you a lot? Is there something on your face?

Check, and if you are clear, it might be that he thinks you are cute. Is he licking his lips and swaying his hips? You know what that means: men always have sex on the brain.

Does he smile at you and gesture at you? Could be the real thing.

If you are standing near a guy and he is interested, he’ll lean into you, want to be near you, and make eye contact on the regular to try to let you know he is interested.

He could also just come right out and say it, but that is highly unlikely considering he is married.

He’ll want to make sure you’re keen on him before he makes any moves.

So stick with deciphering body language and some of these other tricks to tell if a guy likes you for sure.

9. He compliments you

Compliments are a great way to gauge a guy’s interest. Of course, many guys can give compliments when they don’t really mean it because they want to make a good impression.

But if they truly like you, they’ll probably start complimenting you on subtle things that you may not be aware of.

It could be unique tidbits about your personality, or they could notice subtle changes in your hairstyle.

In fact, sometimes it may not even be a compliment, but the fact that they’ve noticed that you’ve changed your hairstyle or used different make-up.

If they notice, it means they’re paying attention to you, and this married man probably cares for you.

Also, not many guys are great at giving compliments, so keep your ears out and notice when he says something that could even be remotely viewed as a compliment.

If you’ve noticed that he doesn’t really compliment others, then he probably likes you.

10. He playfully punches your arm

This may be a surprising one, but it’s actually a common signal that a guy likes you.

It’s a guy’s “manly way” of building rapport with you without being too forward.

If you laugh with him when he punches you, it’ll give him a signal that you’re interested as well (if you don’t mind that he is married, that is).

If you don’t like him punching you, but you like him, then playfully laugh and say “ow that hurt!” He likely won’t do it again, but your smile and playfulness will indicate that you like him.

If you enjoy the banter, playfully punch him back. That could really assist in building sexual tension.

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